I need to caution you about putting on an act when you’re on your first few dates with single women. What I mean by this is pretending to be someone you are not. And doing things that are not your true nature.

For instance, while on dates you are very romantic, caring, a good listener, love to laugh, complimentary, love doing different things on a date, etc.

All these things you are pretending to be really turn her on and she falls for the person you are pretending to be, not the real you.

So after you feel comfortable that you have hooked her, you revert back to being your true self:
Not romantic anymore.
Self-centered.
Ignore her when she’s talking.
Compliments are few and far between.
You don’t laugh as much when she says something funny because before you were only pretending to laugh.
You prefer staying in instead of going out all the time because you are truly a couch potato.
When she is exposed to the true you, she is going to be inclined to lose interest in you. She was crazy about the guy you were pretending to be.

So, do you see my point now? It’s much better and fairer to your date to be yourself. Don’t put on a phony act pretending to be someone you are not. If you do, you’re going to have to maintain this phony image long-term because when the real you emerges, you may lose her or your relationship with her will be difficult.

P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and seduce single women, please visit his website

There are good ways and bad ways to ask a single girl out. The bad way to ask a girl out is, “Would you like to go out with me?” By saying this:

You set yourself up for rejection. She might say no.
You imply that she would be doing you a favor by going out with you.
You imply a formal date. You are making a move on her. The pressure is on her.
If she says “no,” you are never sure whether to ask her again for another time. Was it, “No, I don’t want to go out with you,” or “No, I want to go out with you but I’m busy that night.”
You literally sound like a junior high kid asking a girl out on his first date.

The right way to ask a single girl out is, “Let’s get together and do something sometime.” Memorize these words. By saying this, you give an impression of a casual meeting. No big deal. Friends getting to know each other. Not a formal date. If you say this, her response will let you know whether she wants to date you or not.

If she is interested, she will respond in the positive, but also her tone will be positive. The expression on her face will be positive. She may even lead the conversation to making a specific time to do something. If you do get a positive response, you can either pursue the conversation and arrange to meet on a casual date or leave it until the next time you meet. You know she wants to get together and she will be waiting, now that you have teased her with talk of a date but offered no specific plans. You are being elusive and playing hard to get. Her anticipation works in your favor.

If she does not want to go out with you, her verbal response may be “no” or it may even be “yes” to save your feelings, but her tone, her facial expression, and her desire to drop the subject will let you know she is not interested. Don’t pursue it further.

The beauty of this exact phrase is:

You are not set up for rejection. After all, you have not really asked her out. You’ve made a statement.
You are throwing out an offer. The implication is that you are doing her a favor. She is not doing you a favor by going out with you.
It implies a casual get-together to get to know each other, not a formal date.
You know for sure whether she wants to date you or not.
You aren’t asking her. You are making a statement which says something about you. You are the type of person that likes to do things with friends, and of course she would like to participate. After all, there is no pressure. You are a confident, friendly, fun-loving person who is doing things.

Now re-read that phrase. “Let’s get together and do something sometime.” See how much better it is than asking a question that may get you a wrong answer?

P.S. - This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and become intimate with women, please visit his website.

This week I want to focus on how important it is to say the right things in your mind to succeed with single women. It makes a big difference in what thoughts to feed your mind to improve your love life.

For instance, losers with women make up excuses in their minds by telling themselves, “I can’t because ” To be a success with women you need to reverse this thinking and say in your mind, “I can or “I want to.”

So, to sum it up, you need to create a new vocabulary to feed your mind positive affirmations. Here are a few examples:

1. Don’t say, “I will try to meet some new women.” Instead say, “I will meet some new women.”

2. Don’t say, “I will try to approach women that I’m attracted to.” Instead say, “I will approach women that I’m attracted to.”

3. Don’t say, “I can’t meet any women.” Instead say, “I can meet any woman I desire.”

In closing, don’t focus on your past failures with women. The future is now and focus all your energy and attention on succeeding with women now. Never give up until you have reached your objectives in dating.